"I will follow the client with an attitude of acceptance,
non-possessive warmth, honesty and spontaneity"
I tend to use person centred therapy as a baseline and incorporate Behavioral Therapy (cognitive behavioural therapy and behavioural activation therapy), Solution Focused Brief Therapy, Psychodynamic Reflection and Person-Centred Counselling, ACT, Behavioural activation and psychodynamic models. This approach to therapy is called intergrative, as it combines two or more therapy models, and is a blend from the humanistic and behavioural models. This would be discussed at the initial assessment.
This broader integrative approach to Counselling and Psychotherapy allows me to use different techniques and tools as appropriate, thus blending a recipe that is best suited to the client, rather than making the client fit the therapy model.
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy will help you examine the way you think and your beliefs, and in doing so, change the way you feel.
- Goal-orientated Solution Focused Brief Therapy will help you find solutions to specific problems, rather than looking back into the past and analyzing it.
- Psychodynamic therapy also known as insight-oriented therapy is the opposite and reflects back to your childhood experiences and unconscious processes and works by helping the client become self-aware and understand the influence of the past on present behavior.
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a type of psychotherapy that helps you accept the difficulties that come with life.
- Person-Centered Therapy is less structured, and often preferred by those clients that want to look at personal development as part of their therapy and is the preferred choice for bereavement and loss therapy. Whichever model I use, I will follow the client with an attitude of acceptance, non-possessive warmth, genuineness, honesty and spontaneity, and trust the expertise of the client that he or she, will know what is most important to them and what hurts.
It is not the place of the Counsellor or Psychotherapist to tell the client what to do, but to offer feedback, help formulate goals and action plans, look at behavior patterns and themes and offer information; the client then has the opportunity to look at these, discuss them, and proceed in the best way forward for them. Counselling does not offer magic solutions, it can be hard work, and progress can be slow and sometimes painful whichever model is used. It's interesting to note though, that research shows that the success of Counselling owes more to the relationship between client and Counsellor, rather than the theoretical model used.
Children under 10 years
Your child might be experiencing problems at school, issues with peers, parents or generally not feeling like themselves.
Counselling lets them talk about how they feel, separate from school and home life and can help your child get back to enjoying life. I have worked within a tier 2/3 mental health NHS service supporting children from as young as 5 years old and their families with issues such as anger, low mood, depression, anxiety, attachment issues, bullying, low self-esteem, self-harm and much more. I have also worked within a private clinic working with eating disorder clients.
Teenagers and Young Person
Children and Young People's counseling is for any young persons who's having problems. Whether it's depression and mental heath concerns or issues with parents or people at school. I have worked for the NHS service supporting teenagers and young people and their families with issues such as anger, low mood, depression, anxiety, attachment issues, bullying, low self-esteem, self-harm and much more. I have also worked within a private clinic working with eating disorder clients.
Counselling offers what is, for many people, the unique experience of being actively listened to while they explore a difficulty they may be having, distress they may be experiencing, or dissatisfaction they may be feeling in their lives. Most of us experience passive listening from those around us – even well-meaning family and friends – when we try to talk to them: they may frequently interrupt us or continue with some other activity and not really give us their full attention. Or they may become embarrassed, upset or angry in response to what they hear. Any of these responses inhibits us and frustrates us further, and prevents us from resolving our problems.
In the counselling I offer, you experience a professionally trained, impartial experience with active listening on one hand, and full attention and genuine interest on the other. This combined with warmth and non-judgmental acceptance of whatever is bought to the sessions (and the assurance of complete confidentiality) enables both myself and the client to explore thoughts and feelings freely. Counselling is not about solving a clients problem, or telling them what to do. Rather, I work to help people regain faith in them, hope in life, confidence and self-approval. I also offer support for the client to work out what they need to do for themselves. To help this process a I provide a safe environment, free from distractions, in which a person can explore their emotions. Feelings, which may be acting as a barrier to a person’s clear thinking e.g. guilt, fear or anger can be acknowledged and explored so that the person can regain positive control of their life.
We avoid thinking about getting older because old age conjures up our worst fears: of being trapped in a bed or wheelchair, of being a burden, of losing our ability to think and reason — of being alone. Thus we shouldn't be surprised to learn that depression is epidemic among the aged. According to one study, 20-25 percent of the elderly in nursing homes are clinically depressed.
Treating depression in the elderly can be difficult thanks to cultural stereotypes and attitudes among an older generation that often views depression as a character weakness. An elderly person might feel they have to ‘toughen up’ or ‘pull themselves together’ which are common beliefs. This can make mask symptoms or depression and prevent them from asking for help.
In a world so fearful of old age, there may be no one physically close enough who recognizes the symptoms and can help the depressed elderly person get the help they need. Furthermore, asking for help can be hard, however I am happy to work with the client in their home and at their pace. The reality of physical isolation coupled with possible loss, bereavement and coming to terms with aging or illness can be immensely overwhelming. If you know someone in need of support please contact for an initial informal chat.
Relationship Counseling depends on what you want to get out of it. For some people, therapy can transform a relationship and therefore lives; for others therapy may help you to solve a specific problem and move forward with more confidence and less anxiety. It doesn't matter if you're married, living together, single, gay or straight. Lots of people have an idea of what relationship counselling is and think that you only need counseling when things get really bad. But I am here whenever you need me; no matter what situation you face in your relationship. Even if your problems seem trivial, I can help.
The responsibility of caring for someone can be overwhelming and challenging. The feelings one experiences as they go through their caring journey can be confusing yet rewarding. A medical professional should be able to help with the majority of practical issues relating to the condition of the person being cared for, but what about the emotional considerations? What about the carer? It's easy to forget, but emotional wellbeing is every bit as important as the physical issues.
For many, family and friends can lend an ear, they can also be an invaluable resource in the unburdening of emotional stresses that caring invariably brings. Sometimes caring for someone can leave one feeling isolated and alone. Carers can bottle up their emotions feeling like they are not important.
Counselling can help make sense of the new or ongoing role as a carer, whether in specific areas such as dealing with bereavement or separation from a loved one, or with the more general feelings of stress, anxiety and depression connected to the caring role. With one to one counselling you are able to have the personal time and space to reflect and explore your emotions.
How can counselling benefit young people?
Counselling children and young people involves helping the child to develop a positive attitude to life, recognize their strengths and express themself. It does not involve making decisions for the child, imposing beliefs on them or preaching. I provide counselling to the child and young people on their own, however it may be provided to a child as part of a family (family counselling).
Child related issues may include but not exclusive of:
- Family and step-family relationships
- Emotional problems
- Behavioral problems
- Literacy and numeracy problems
- Psychological problems
- Trauma / abuse